Wife, Mom, Career Woman and Caregiver?

For those of us that are referred to as the “sandwich generation”, we never imagined that during the heart of our career we would be faced with caregiving challenges. As a child, it is hard to picture your parents getting “old” and as a grown up, it is heart wrenching to watch them age.
So many of us feel as though we are not doing enough and become frustrated that we can’t do more. It is difficult to watch parents age – to observe the slow or fast decline in their overall health. But, unfortunately, it is a fact of life and the best course of action is to find support and manage.

1. Remember, you are not alone. Don’t be afraid to talk to friends and other family members. The stress of caregiving can be very serious and the first thing you need to avoid is allowing the situation to have a negative impact on your own health. A sick you cannot care for an aging parent.

2. Involve others – children, family, friends. Delegate jobs and responsibilities. If you do not have help – you may want to consider hiring a home health aide. You could consider even just one day a week to assist with household chores and companionship for your parent(s). You will need the personal time away.

3. Don’t lose sight of your personal life. Your family: husband and children – your friends. Having the responsibility to care for an aging parent can be a 24/7 job, especially if they are non-ambulatory. For the sake of your relationships, be careful not be become consumed with your new caregiving responsibilities. Block quality time with all of those who support and love you.

4. Seek resources: a licensed home care agency; an elder law attorney or trusted advisor; a senior center; on line support; your church; your employer (flex time options); books and others also caring for their parents.

It is one job to be a parent, but when you are faced with caring for your own parents as well, it is often an uncomfortable and stressful time. It is important to care for yourself. Be sure to monitor your own stress level and involve any and all resources that are available. In the long run – everyone will be much happier and most importantly, safe.

~Serena L. Brock